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Message from: Pamela, 06 May 05

Subject: my dad

My dad died a few weeks ago. I'm so scared. Everyone has been great and really supportive but I still don't believe it. I don't even know how I feel because I still can't believe it happened.

Subject:Reply

Let me start by saying I am sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad about three years ago in a freak motorcycle accident. It still is painful to think about him. When he died i kept seeing him where-ever i went and i didnt know how to feel about his death either. I am confused too, i miss him more now then ever.
But no body can tell you how to feel, is there someone who you can talk to in your family? I know it is hard and painful when you think of someone who you loved and they had gone but if you feel like crying have a cry or if you want to talk to someone about it find someone. I know it seems like a lifetime they are gone but there is always someone there to support you and listen. My gran told me when my daad died not to be afraid to show how you are feeling its not a weakness and it is true. People act differently to a death and do what feels right.
I'm sorry if this wasnt much help but honestly do what you need to to help yourself.
Take care
Laura xXx

Subject:i understand

hiya,
allthough no 1 will eva know exactly how u fell i can understand wen my dad died the day after my 15th birthday almost a year ago it neva felt real and still doesn't! sum times i go home from school or work with good news or a funny story to tell him and still get a shock to find he isnt there! but in a way it comforts me because if he had really left my side i wouldn't feel him there and the fact i still does proves he is there and watching me. dont let any one tell u how u feel is wrong because it is just the way i felt, as though nothing had happened and we jus had to keep going. but in a few months wen things start to hit home dont u keep it bottled up coz thats wat i did and it didnt help me at all. tlk to sum 1 close, or do wat i did keep a diary or write story's or peoms to express your feeling! good luck and stay strong xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject:Your Dad

Hi, my dad died in 2002 in a freak motercycle crash and i dont think i ever recovered, just take my advice and dont push those who want to help you, away. Its ok to cry and grieve, dont hold it back like i treied to be strong for my Mum, dont! Just let it out, trust me. take comfort in others, they want to help you. Take Care, Love From Sophie. XxXxX

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hi my grandad died in january and i feel the same i am so scared i dont want to belive it and people have been there for me all the way but i still dont want to belive it. all i have to say really is be stronge because your dad will be looking over you thinking what are worring about i am okay dont worry and dont be scared