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Message from: jean-maire, 9 Nov 04

Subject: how do you cope with a death of a parent?

i want any1 to heklp me how 2 cope when you lose a mam to cancer, i keep thinking she is going to come home every time the door opens but it is never her. how can i cope?

Subject: Losing a parent

Hi Jean Marie, I've also lost my mum to cancer (when I was 17) and it's awful. I reacted badly and took an overdose 6 weeks after she died. Beyond that I used to have a recurring dream that she came home and it was all a big mistake. I'm afraid I have no magical formula as to how to get over it, I can only encourage you to keep going, be honest with yourself about how you feel and be open with those you love. It's now 10 years since my mum died and thankfully the strongest memories I have of her are the good ones; I'm sure in time the same will be true for you. Be kind to yourself, Love xx

Subject:my mum

i lost my mum just over a year ago jean-maire. it doesnt get any easier but i have found that the thing that helps me more than anything is talking. talk to friends or someone your close to anyone that will listen. if they care about you they will listen and even if they dont have anything to say just knowing they are there for you will help

Subject:coping with a loss of a parent

i know exactly how your feeling.i lost my mum a week ago..and dont know how i will cope without her.i dont think its possible to feel this much pain and hurt.your mum is the most special and important person in your life and when you lose her it feels like your life just cant carry on.

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your right helen. your mum is the person you can talk to. ok not always about everything but you know she is always there. shes the person you go to for a cuddle and then when you least expect it shes gone. its hard to know what to do a lot of the time but its best to know theres always a light at the end of the tunnel. stop and think what your light is.

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I kno exactly how you feel. my mum died just 2 days ago, she was only 51 and she wasnt even sick. i keep askin myself why its happened cos she as such a lovely person with so many friends and family who love her and miss her. i feel really sorry for my dad, my mum was his bst friend as well as his wife. the funeral will be in a couple of days and i dont know how ill cope, but iv had loads of suport from my family, friends and boyfriend. i know ill be a stronger person in time.